The Conclusion of the Matter:

I'm not sure it really is in our nature to be with someone for the rest
of our lives just because you made this pact. You keep going as long as
you keep growing. When that dies, we do.

Brad Pitt

2 comments:

Faux or not to Faux said...

Brad is very profound and sounds half way normal. I wonder if he is?

Shiremom4 said...

Living with abuse is not an option. That goes without saying. Zero tolerance, as it were. That being said, read on.

I think his statement is Pre-mature.
"You keep going as long as you keep growing. When that dies, we do."

Geez! It seems to me he's saying that your spouse is the end all to your growth and joy in life. Since when do two people grow at the same rate, or even at the same time? This looks like lack of experience folks. When that choice to love someone turns sour, you just give up? Get something that feels better? I can't imagine the lives of those in the spotlight, others fawning over them, doing anything to be near them. It must be worse than difficut for a couple to remain focused on their relationship.

Someone who's never toughed it out for many years to enjoy the fruits of one's commitment could possibly be afraid that there is no light at the end of the tunnel for them. It's understandable for those who have "so much" (Like Brad) to be unsure of trudging onward. It's a risk of losing the happiness and comfort they now enjoy. I don't know Jennifer's thoughts, so I'm only addressing Brad's one statement.
I'm disappointed with Brad and opinion. Since it's so public, it has great power. His situation doesn't encourage the value of commitment, it trivializes it. The experience of those who have suffered through the rough times with their (non-abusive) spouses should be learned from. The reward is indescribable.